When Caretakers Take Away Things You Really Need

If you and your friends are Learners on the path to becoming Wise Leaders to do lots of good someday, you may need lots of resources and experiences to play around with, to get a whole understanding of the world. Sometimes when you go for a particular experience, a Pretending Person says you can’t because it is bad, and you are bad for trying to experience it. They also may try to create punishments so that you are impelled from doing it. They don’t tell you why it’s bad, and it’s also very easy to see that they are mistaken. Even if it was bad for one of the Learners, it could still help the others be the best Wise Leader they could be someday. Things like:

• Talking to your friends about something more important than what a Pretending Person wants you to talk about.
• Playing with your friends.
• Solving problems in new ways.
• Playing with an old tire.
• Playing in the mud.
• Reading about how the world works.
• Listening in on how caretakers secretly talk to each other about problems you’ve created.
• Wiggling around.

You have some options on ways to approach what they are doing to you:

1. Mourning Approach: Enduring the loss of this resource or experience and still trying to continue along the path of a Wise Leader who will one day do good.
2. Sneaky Approach: Trying to keep on having the experience by sneaking around, but still intending to be a Wise Leader to do good.
3. Enforce Approach: Trying to stop other people using this resource or experience to impress the Pretending Person enough that they will: a. Come to you for advice and you can finally tell them, “Hmm, I think this way wasn’t for the best and was actually really discouraging.” b. Help them see how the end result of their actions did not make for a thriving environment. c. Make you the new leader so you can get rid of their way.



4. Deviant Approach (sometimes called rebelling): Sacrificing your potential to be a Wise Leader and do the most good in exchange for helping future Learners who wish to be Wise Leaders. Change yourself into someone who enjoys this experience. Force the Pretending Person to get overwhelmed with trying to stop people from having this experience and have the Pretending Person finally realize it was a bad idea to ban it.