Getting Along With People

Reasons to Do or Not Do Something

Being Naturally Impelled

When a normal person’s body, mind, nature, or their instinct really really wants them to do something, it will make it so they feel really bad, in pain, or not feel like themselves until they do it. They do it because nature impelled them.

If someone does something because nature impelled them, it usually helps their goals in two ways:

  1. They are naturally drawn towards the right environment for achieving their goals.
  2. Being in that type of environment tells their brain and body to work well without problems.

Doing something because you are naturally impelled is a very good reason to do something if you don’t know much about the world yet. Doing so should usually make a Self Guider happy if they were your caretaker.

Exercise: Match what nature impels you to do with the very good reason it helps you reach your goals. Write down which number goes with which letter on another piece of paper.

How It Helps Your Body and Brain Work Well Without Problems How It Helps Your Goals
1. I’m eating because I’m hungry A. I need oxygen to live.
2. I’m going to the bathroom because my bladder hurts. B. I need nutrients to live.
3. I need to swim up because I panic when I can’t breathe. C. If I get too injured, I can’t help out.
4. I need to stop standing on this hot metal because it hurts. D. I need to flush out the water in me to make room for new water.

Answers: 1.B 2.D 3.A 4.C

Being lonely is a common reason people are naturally impelled to do something.

  1. Working together with other people on a goal helps it get done faster.
  2. Being around other people lets their brain think well and their body work well.

If someone has a goal but is alone, the task becomes harder because:

  1. They have to do everything by themselves.
  2. Their brain tells them not to think as well and their body not to work as well because they are alone.

This means they could decide to work on a goal a friend is working on (even if they don’t think the goal is for the best) because it would be easier than trying to get themselves to work on a different goal alone.

People in extreme situations sometimes decide to not do something they are naturally impelled to because it hurts their goals to do good.

Exercise: Match what naturally impels you to take an action with how it could hurt your goals. Write down what number goes to what letter on another piece of paper.

How It Helps Your Body and Brain Work Well Without Problems How It Could Hurt Your Goals
1. I want to eat because I’m hungry. A. I don’t want food because I want to share it with my friend who is even hungrier.
2. I want to go to the bathroom because my bladder hurts. B. I’m a lifeguard and I have to dive down to rescue someone before I can get oxygen.
3. I need to swim up because I panic when I can’t breathe. C. I’ll have to hold it in to get my friend to the hospital first.
4. All I can think about is getting off this hot metal when I walk on it. D. I will have to walk in pain to get to the exit because there is a fire.

Answers:
1.A 2.C 3.B 4.D

There might be some situations where it would be best to be lonely too. If you work alone and it’s not your choice, or there is a situation where working alone could help more people than working together, then being naturally impelled hurts you more than it helps. Example: if you live in a place where you only know Misguided People, then you might have to be alone to make the world better.

For Self Guiders, they never ever do things because they are naturally impelled. They found a way to do things without pain, panic, hunger, or loneliness affecting them. It’s a very good advantage.

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